Quote of the Week

"I DO NOT WANT TO BE THE LEADER. I REFUSE TO BE THE LEADER. I WANT TO LIVE DARKLY AND RICHLY IN MY FEMALENESS. I WANT A MAN LYING OVER ME, ALWAYS OVER ME. HIS WILL, HIS PLEASURE, HIS DESIRE, HIS LIFE, HIS WORK, HIS SEXUALITY THE TOUCHSTONE, THE COMMAND, MY PIVOT. I DON’T MIND WORKING, HOLDING MY GROUND INTELLECTUALLY, ARTISTICALLY; BUT AS A WOMAN, OH, GOD, AS A WOMAN I WANT TO BE DOMINATED. I DON’T MIND BEING TOLD TO STAND ON MY OWN FEET, NOT TO CLING, BE ALL THAT I AM CAPABLE OF DOING, BUT I AM GOING TO BE PURSUED, FUCKED, POSSESSED BY THE WILL OF A MALE AT HIS TIME, HIS BIDDING." - ANAIS NIN

A Smarter Way

Peeps,
A very beloved teacher once told a class of roughly twenty students a very simple quote (of which I'm sure wasn't of his own making) that has stuck with me. The phrase is simple and well applied to me.


Work smarter, not harder

I am definitely a do-it-the-hard-way type person. If I can make a whale out of a simple sardine-type project, I go at it with gusto. I think it's because I can never see the simple way of doing it. I always have to go the extra mile to get around the corner. So in times when I'm sure there's an easier way of doing things, I think about this quote and wonder what I can do to make things more efficient.
I think in relationships, we all have the tendency to work harder, not smarter. A simple question worded wrong can end up in volcanic arguments.



Or what may seem to be a gigantic problem could be solved by your loved one with a small dismissive wave of their hand.
Sometimes I'll be struggling with something so simple, like for instance not touching things that very obviously just came out of the oven. Solution: oven mitts. I've learned that oven mitts are basically a fact of my life. I use them for things in the microwave, oven, hot cups, hot forks, and until recently I flipped tortillas with them. (but then my mom said that I shouldn't do that as the oven mitt might catch on fire, tee hee) Work smarter, not harder.
Peeps, repeat this mantra, work smarter, not harder.